Groom Speech Examples: How to Thank Everyone Without Rambling

A groom speech has two jobs: thank the people who made the day happen, and say something real to the person you just married. The secret to doing both without rambling is to thank people in groups, give each group one specific line, and save your partner for the end.

Most groom speeches go wrong in the middle, where a list of thirty names turns into a roll call. This guide gives you a thank-you map that keeps it tight, a timed structure, four complete groom speech examples (heartfelt, funny, short and a joint speech with your partner), a line bank and delivery tips.

Where the groom speaks in the Australian order

At most Australian receptions the couple speaks last. A typical order runs: father of the bride, father of the groom (optional), best man, maid of honour, then the couple. That means you have heard every other speech before you stand up, which is useful: you can respond to them, and you know exactly who has already been thanked.

Some couples give one joint speech, some speak separately, and some have the groom speak earlier to welcome guests. Our wedding speech order guide covers the options. Whatever you choose, agree it with the MC so the run sheet reflects it.

The thank-you map: how to thank everyone without a roll call

The fix for rambling is grouping. Sort everyone into six groups, give each group one sentence, and name individuals only where it truly matters.

Group	Who is in it	How to thank them	Time
1. Guests	Everyone, with a nod to travellers	One line for the room, one for interstate or overseas guests	15 seconds
2. Both sets of parents	Your parents, your partner’s parents	One specific thing each family did, by name	45 seconds
3. The wedding party	Groomsmen, bridesmaids, flower kids, MC	One line for the group, one for the best man’s speech	30 seconds
4. Helpers	Family and friends who made, lent or drove things	Group them by what they did	20 seconds
5. Absent loved ones	Anyone who has died or could not come	One or two sentences, then move on	15 seconds
6. Suppliers and venue	Celebrant, venue team, photographer, others	One sentence covering all of them	10 seconds

That is about two and a half minutes for every thank-you you need. Write this section out in full, word for word, because it is the part you are most likely to forget under pressure.

Groom speech structure (with timings)

Section	What to cover	Time
1. Opening	Respond to the earlier speeches with a line or two	20 to 30 seconds
2. Thank-yous	Work through the thank-you map	2 to 2.5 minutes
3. Your partner	What you love, a short story, a promise	60 to 90 seconds
4. The toast	Usually to your partner, or to the guests	15 seconds

That lands between 4 and 4.5 minutes. The average English speaker talks at about 150 words per minute, and slightly slower is easier to follow (Tools for Clear Speech, Baruch College), so budget about 130 words per minute: a 4.5-minute speech is close to 600 words.

Groom speech examples

All four are original examples. Swap the brackets for your details and keep the order.

1. Heartfelt groom speech (about 4.5 minutes)

Good evening, everyone. Thank you, [Best man], for that speech. I’d like to say most of it was untrue, but [Bride]’s already heard the fun run story, so I’ll let it go.

On behalf of my wife and me… (I’ve been waiting all day to say that.) On behalf of my wife and me, thank you all for being here. Some of you have come from [place] and [place], and we’re so grateful you made the trip.

To [Bride]’s parents, [Names]: thank you for welcoming me into your family long before today, and for everything you’ve done for this wedding, from the backyard rehearsal to the very long spreadsheet. [Father of the bride], thank you for your speech, and for trusting me with your daughter. I’ll look after her.

To my mum and dad, [Names]: thank you for everything, but especially for showing me what a good marriage looks like. I didn’t know I was taking notes, but I was.

To our wedding party: thank you for the planning, the patience and the bucks and hens weekends that we will never speak of again. [Best man], thank you for standing next to me today, like you have for the past twenty years. And thank you to [MC] for keeping us all on schedule, which in this family is a miracle.

To everyone who helped: [Name] and [Name], who made the cake; [Uncle], who drove the bridal car; and everyone who set up chairs this morning. Thank you. And to the team at [venue] and all our suppliers: you made today easy.

We’re also thinking of [Name], who we know would have loved today.

And finally, [Bride]. I’ve had a few weeks to think about what I wanted to say, and every version I wrote was too long. So here’s the short one. The first time I met you, you laughed at a joke I hadn’t finished telling yet. You’ve been a step ahead of me ever since, and I’ve loved every minute of trying to keep up. You are the kindest, cleverest, most stubborn person I know. Thank you for marrying me. I’ll spend the rest of my life trying to deserve it.

Would you all please stand and raise your glasses. To my wife, [Bride].

2. Funny groom speech (about 4 minutes)

Good evening, everyone. I’d like to start by thanking [Best man] for that speech, which was much shorter than the version he showed me last week, and only slightly less defamatory.

Thank you all for coming. I know some of you have travelled a long way, and some of you have travelled from [suburb], which with the roadworks on the way in is roughly the same thing.

To [Bride]’s parents: thank you for raising someone so wonderful, and for not asking too many questions when she brought me home. [Mother of the bride], I’m sorry about the lasagne story. I really did think it was the best dinner I’d had in ages.

Mum and Dad, thank you for everything. Dad, I know you’ve been worried about this speech, because you texted me “keep it short” four times this morning. I’ll do my best.

To our wedding party: thank you for putting up with us for twelve months. Bridesmaids, you look incredible. Groomsmen, you look like you’ve been dressed by the bridesmaids, which is a compliment. To everyone who helped set up, drove, baked, ironed and herded: we owe you. To our celebrant, our venue and every supplier: thank you for making this look easy.

And now, [Bride]. For those who don’t know, I proposed three times. The first time, I’d planned a sunset picnic, and it rained. The second time, I’d booked a restaurant, and she had food poisoning. The third time, I asked in our kitchen, in trackies, while she was looking for the car keys. She said yes before I finished the question. I’ve since learned that’s when she makes all her best decisions.

[Bride], you’re the smartest person in any room, including this one. You make me laugh every day, and you make me want to be better. Thank you for saying yes in the kitchen.

Please stand and raise your glasses. To my wife.

3. Short groom speech (about 2 minutes)

Good evening, everyone. Thank you all for being here. Thank you to [Best man] and everyone who spoke tonight; I’ll be dealing with you later.

To [Bride]’s parents, [Names], and my parents, [Names]: thank you for your love, your help and your generosity. Today wouldn’t have happened without you.

To our wedding party and everyone who helped: thank you. To our venue and suppliers: thank you for a perfect day.

And to [Bride]: you are my best friend and the best thing that’s ever happened to me. Thank you for marrying me.

Please stand and raise your glasses. To my wife.

For more short formats, see our guide to short wedding speeches.

4. Joint couple speech (about 5 minutes total)

Split the thank-yous so you each take groups, then finish with a line each to the other.

[Partner A]: Good evening, everyone. We’ll keep this short, because we want to get to the dance floor as much as you do.

[Partner B]: First, thank you for being here. Whether you came from down the road or the other side of the world, it means so much.

[Partner A]: To my parents, [Names]: thank you for every lift, every pep talk and every dollar. And to [Partner B]’s parents, [Names], for welcoming me from the very first Sunday lunch.

[Partner B]: To our wedding party: thank you for the planning, the speeches and the emotional support. To everyone who helped today, and to our celebrant, venue and suppliers: thank you for making it all run so smoothly.

[Partner A]: We’re also thinking of [Name] tonight.

[Partner B]: And finally, to [Partner A]. You’re my favourite person to do nothing with, and my favourite person to do everything with. I can’t wait for all of it.

[Partner A]: And to [Partner B]. You make the hard things easy and the easy things fun. Thank you for today, and for every day after it.

Both: Please stand and raise your glasses. To all of you.

Read a joint speech together out loud at least twice, standing up, with a single mic you pass between you. Passing is the part you need to practise. If the bride is giving her own speech instead (our bride speech examples can help), compare notes so you do not double up on the thank-yous.

Groom speech line bank

Responding to earlier speeches

• “Thank you, [Best man]. I’d like to correct the record on several points, but I’ve been advised by my lawyer, also known as my wife, not to.”
• “[Father of the bride], thank you for those words. I promise to keep her happy, and to keep my phone charged so she can reach me.”

Thanking parents

• “Mum and Dad, you taught me to work hard, say thank you and always bring a plate. I’m doing all three tonight.”
• “To my new in-laws: thank you for trusting me with your daughter, and with the barbecue.”

Thanking the wedding party

• “To my groomsmen, who stood next to me today and have stood by me for years.”
• “To the bridesmaids, who turned a twelve-month to-do list into a perfect day.”

To your new spouse

• “I didn’t know what I was looking for until I found you, and then I couldn’t stop looking.”
• “You are my favourite person and my best decision.”
• “Thank you for choosing me. I’ll keep choosing you.”

Toasts

• “To my wife, [Bride].”
• “To all of you, for making today the best day of our lives.”

Delivery tips that help

Mic and notes

• Hold the mic a fist-width below your chin. When you turn to your partner at the end, turn the mic with you, or the most important minute of your speech will be inaudible.
• Write the thank-you section word for word on numbered cards in large type. You can glance at the partner section more loosely, but names must be exactly right.
• If your partner is standing beside you, hold your cards in the hand furthest from them so you can still turn towards them.

Timing around the run sheet

• Confirm with the MC where your speech sits and what happens straight after. If you are cutting the cake or going straight into the first dance, your last line hands over to that moment, so it should land cleanly. Our wedding run sheet guide shows how speeches usually fit.
• Listen to the other speeches with a pen handy. If someone has already thanked the venue or a helper, you can cut that line.
• Go easy on drinks until after you have spoken. You will be offered a lot of them.

After the speeches: photo booth and audio guestbook

The end of the couple’s speech is often the end of the formalities, and the energy in the room changes fast. If there is a photo booth, make sure it was paused during speeches and is not set up behind the head table, where a flash would compete with the speakers. Once you finish, it is a good time to walk the wedding party over for a group photo before the dance floor opens.

A photo booth with its umbrella light and print station, set up against a white backdrop.

There will be people you forgot to thank, and things you meant to say to your partner but left off the cards. An audio guestbook is a vintage-style phone where guests, and you, can pick up the handset, hear a greeting and leave a message after the beep. There is no limit on message length, and the couple receives an online gallery of every recording after the event. Recording a short message to your new spouse that night is a lovely surprise for them to find when the files arrive.

A red audio guestbook phone with its step-by-step instruction sign.

For ideas on what guests can say, see our audio guestbook message ideas.

Common groom speech mistakes

• The roll call. Reading forty names is how speeches hit ten minutes. Thank groups.
• Forgetting a parent or step-parent. Write every parent’s name on your cards, even if it feels obvious.
• Rushing the bit about your partner. It is the reason everyone is here. Slow down for it.
• Listing gifts. One line thanking everyone for their generosity is enough; individual gifts belong in your thank-you cards.
• Responding to every joke from the best man. One comeback is enough.
• Toasting the wrong thing. Decide in advance whether you are toasting your partner, the guests or the bridesmaids, and say it clearly.

Read the other speeches

If you are helping the rest of the wedding party prepare: the best man speech examples, father of the bride speech, father of the groom speech and mother of the bride speech guides follow the same format. The bridesmaids can start with our guide on how to write a maid of honour speech. If you are still at the vows stage, our wedding vows guide uses a similar approach.

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